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Yes, I know there are some very toxic grandparents out there. There are also toxic parents out there, and adult children that are toxic to their parents! Please learn not to judge or be so harsh and have a little more compassion and understanding of others. Let children enjoy their grandparents, all of which are not toxic. lol You must be an incredibly strong, compassionate woman. No one survives growing up with narcissistic parents unscathed. But if you’re in a counseling profession, you must have found a way to turn your pain into growth, and a vehicle for helping other people. You go girl!!! My mother who is in her 80’s have convinced my 3 children who are grown things that are not true. Enough for them to cut me out of their life. Without giving me the chance of a trial I have been found guilty in their minds. 3 grandchildren will not know their grandparents and my heart is forever broken. But I have always thought that my mom just wanted to protect my wellbeing, that she was worried about me or my health (I had serious health problems when my daughter was smaller) and that was the reason for her behaviour. But now I understand that she wants to keep me to herself, she wants to be more important to me than my daughter. It’s really frustrating and consuming. It’s more frustrating when you tell everything that’s happening to you to your friends, and when they meet the person in cause, they tell you “How can you say that things about this sweet elderly man?”

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Except adults have defenses to deal with toxic people; kids don’t. Their psyches are fragile and impressionable. I Love My Gigi Shirt, Grandma Toddler Shirt, Cute Grandmother Tee, Best Gigi Family Shirt, Mimi Nana Onesie, Pregnancy Announcement Gift Tee Separation? And then she gets to ruin my kids halftime? No way!! The war is long but I won’t surrender. Even if it drives me more and more crazy every day. I totally agree, when the parent has mental health issues such as BPD and they spiral out , split and dissociate, their perception of reality is totally different. A grandparent can be doting, however the parent will resent that and perceived that the grandparent is under-mining the parent authority and say the grandparent is toxic. If the grandparent is loving, the parent will also have an dissociative memory that the grandparent never loved them as much, and feel this it is abusive.

Interesting article. I’d also like to find one about parents who think its ok to literally dump their children off as much as possible onto grandparents for their own convenience? I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful. Custom Nana Photo Collage - Nana Birthday Gift - Mom, Nana, Grandma Gift - Custom Collage - Personalized Photo Collage - Nana Christmas Gift

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Thank you so much for your answer! I think you are right about my mom seeing my daughter as competitor. And you are also right about the fact that I need to talk about this with her. I never told her straight and honest how I feel. It is really difficult for me because as you said, I have been too dependent on her. My father died 20 years ago and my mom never remarried, so that probably made things worse. Your answer helped me see things and our relationship more clear. Families have a great opportunity to learn from each other and GROW in maturity. Tossing a relationship to the curb ends that opportunity and so many others within the entire extended family..What ever happened to talking something over and firmly stating boundaries?” How about family counseling?A “transgression or two may be ok but after that Grandma is toxic, cut all ties” WHAT!!!! Wouldn’t some grandchildren be concerned that the parent may reject them just like they did Grandma?!I don’t know about your case, really, or how this personally affects you or targets you specifically. There is nothing that says “Kitty Wu” on this article. At all. Experience Established in 2006, we are one of the longest running online poetry publishers. We have a rich history of publishing popular and high quality contemporary poems not available elsewhere. Our longevity highlights our dedication to poetry and our continued success as a poetry publisher. I couldn’t agree more. Boundaries on both sides should be respected. Although I don’t have an article on this topic, I think you raise a valid point that parents’ behavior can also be manipulative or inconsiderate.

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If a parent is hopelessly negligent (eg drug addict) or abusive to the children then it is ABSOLUTELY the place of a grandparent to bring this to the attention of authorities and work towards gaining custody, She has actually messaged me tonight asking if my children can go to hers for a sleepover next weekend. I really want to say no but I’m scared of the problems it will cause between my husband and me…