The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps

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Restore the love and joy in your relationship by understanding how ADHD influences behavioral patterns. Feelings like these are natural when you’re both under the pressure of unmanaged ADHD patterns. That’s why reconnecting with a sense of fun will give you both some much-needed time out, and will help sustain you on your journey to a happier relationship. The ADHD brain functions in a very consistent and predictable way. That means that certain behavioral patterns will inevitably arise in the context of a romantic relationship. For instance, a “parent-child” dynamic might develop, in which the partner without ADHD takes over practical responsibilities but then feels resentful. Or they constantly nag their partner, which only creates distance, irritation, and conflict.

People with ADHD are often highly creative, so you can tap into this as well. Enroll in a dance class, an animation course, a culinary workshop – whatever takes your fancy. While you’re there, embrace the opportunity to make some new friends too. I also had issues with this because I listened to it as an audiobook. The narration wasn't terrible, but this book is absolutely full of lists - and the lists are pretty redundant in a lot of cases. Or at least they feel redundant in an audiobook. It was really hard to tell what the numbered items were meant to be because I heard them all the time - and they all sounded similar. I think maybe reading them in text would have made them a little easier to sort. But I can't verify that since I only have the audio.It's easy to be impressed by the insight in the book if it is your first exposure to ADHD in relationships. However, it's also easy to be impressed by a gypsy psychic's insight, and for similar reasons. But otherwise the book will likely make you feel a bit useless - and that your ADHD is to blame for all of your shortcomings. Most of the advice for the ADHD spouses is "get treatment - medication and therapy". Already tried that - and can't use meds right now because trying to get pregnant again. Step 3: Getting Treatment for You Both - what effective treatment looks like in a relationship (p. 145. Audio 6. Kindle loc. 2420)

Step 4: Improving Communication - communication techniques that work when ADHD is present (p. 165. Audio 7. Kindle loc. 2744) Having newly been diagnosed with ADHD myself I have been where some of those couples are. Still - Melissa approach the content mostly from the POV that it's the male who has ADHD and how the female suffers. If you want a book that will help you finally understand why your spouse acts in certain ways and how you can make their lives and your own life better going forward then read it. If your spouse also reads it, great. But even if only you read it, you're enlightening yourself. The ADHD Effect on Marriage helps couples understand why things never seem to get better, no matter how hard they try - and how to change that, not by "trying harder," but by "trying differently" so they can renew their love and joy. Ms. Orlov's book provides what many leave out - empathy for both partners. She offers a no-blame, nonjudgmental account of the differences and struggles of each partner, with equal amounts of respect, understanding, and empathy for the experience of both. This is a recipe for success for all partnerships.With ADHD Marriage Consulting you receive personalized support for repairing and invigorating your relationship from a team of professionals who are expert in how ADHD does – and does not – affect couples and individuals. ADHD Marriage Consulting is NOT medical advice, and it is not therapy. For medical advice, please see your doctor. Do you have questions? Want to start? This is the first book I have read on ADHD and relationships, so I will be cautious on how I proceed. There is little focus on navigating the challenges. Relationships tools are briefly covered. Then it is followed by how miserable people are.