I'm Ok, You're Ok: A Practical Approach to Human Psychology

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Being assertive means that you respect yourself enough to put forward your thoughts and suggestions, whilst also respecting the other person and their point of view. You are communicating directly and honestly as well as being kind and likeable. Harris's assertion that a child does not mature with the life position I'm OK - You're OK without therapy has been criticised as positioning TA as a quasi-religious soteriology. [7] The more we get to know the content of our Parent and Child, the more we can separate them from our Adult. Harris' assertion that all children start out with an I'm not OK, You're OK life position was contested by his friend Eric Berne, the originator of TA, who believed that the natural state of a child was feeling I'm OK, You're OK. [ citation needed] The Demon is an internal unpredictable impulsive voice in which Berne compares to the concept of Freud’s (1989 [1940]) ‘id’, although the reasoning why is unclear as he never went into detail to explain.

I’m OK – You’re OK, along with Games People Play, continued to sell briskly throughout the 1970s, with each selling several million copies. Transactional Analysis continued to grow in popularity worldwide. But for the mainstream, readers began looking to alternative “self-help books.” Harris ultimately published a sequel called Staying OK but that never achieved the widespread sales or popularity as his original. Eric Berne and I’m OK – You’re OK The motility which gives birth to the Adult becomes reassuring in later life when a person is in distress. He goes for a walk to ‘clear his mind’.After setting out the context for his belief in the significance of TA, Harris sets out his picture of TA, starting point from the observation that a person’s psychological state seems to change in response to different situations. The question is, from what and to what does it change? Harris answers this through a simplified introduction to TA, explaining Berne’s proposal that there are three states into which a person can switch: the Parent, the Adult and the Child. The book was published first during 1969 in the United States by Harper & Row, then republished as I'm OK- You're OK ( ISBN 0-380-00772-X). In the United Kingdom it was published first during 1970 by Jonathan Cape with the title The Book of Choice. It is still in print, published by Harpercollins. The “Not OK” position is not to be found solely on the responses of course. It can also hide in the opening message. Even though I have this constant need to please others, seek their approval, I deeply an

Im OK…You’re OK” (healthy position)This is potentially a mentally healthy position. Realistic people with this position about themselves and others can solve their problems constructively. They accept the significance of people and get along well with others. They achieve independence (I can do things on my own) and interdependence –“I can choose to be part of a team and accomplish even more than what I can do on my own”. The title of the book has since become commonly used, often as a dismissive categorization of all popular psychology philosophies as being overly accepting. The phrase I'm OK, You're OK is a common cliché in Anglophone culture, at least among an older generation more accustomed to hearing the phrase. Examples of the influence elsewhere are: In the popular television show ALF, season four, episode five ALF takes on the topic of TA with direct reference to OKness, and even says to Willie, "I'm OK, You're OK". Transaction analysis postulate there are three distinguishable modes within each one of us that we use to process information and respond to the stimuli around.Counterscript is communicated later in life in which Berne (1972 p. 489) defines as: “A possible life plan based on parental precepts.” To me, this is extremely interesting, but also sounds like a possible instance of over-interpretation. To the left is the handwriting of Harris. It comes from a first edition copy of I’m OK – You’re OK that Harris personally gave to Berne in advance of the publication. It reads: